BDSM Etiquette in New York
BDSM clubs are on the rise in New York. This is probably as a result of the residents gaining interest in this form of sexual activity. This is very encouraging even to the state’s economy. The only unhappy lot is the clergy who still believe that this is an act against the Holy teachings. That aside, it is important to note that BDSM clubs have their way of running BDSM activities and therefore a participant should adhere to the set of rules. To be mentioned below are some of the expected etiquette of participants and onlookers.
- Mutual Consent
Before any BDSM sexual activity, all the participants must be in a mutual agreement to engage in it. This is meant to avoid people suing the clubs for forcing them in this act. It also ensures that the participants are aware of what to expect in a BDSM.
- Agreement on the Limits of BDSM
Another important thing that New York clubs have done is to draw some sort of agreement for the participants to select the limits of their encounter. As much as BDSM is desirable, it may at times prove to be painful and hence the need to set the limits. This helps even the starters to climb the BDSM ladder slowly. The agreements are usually kept as formal contracts.
- Adhere to the Onlookers Rules
Some clubs do set rules of how the onlookers can interact with the participants. It is important for an individual to adhere to these rules to avoid conflict with the club. The rules are also set to protect the participants from external interference.
- Wear Gloves when Fisting
Gloves should be put on whenever a person wants to engage in fisting. This helps to avoid contracting STDs.
- Use paddles when Spanking
There are clubs that prefer the use of paddles in a spank rather to bare hands. This is optional in some clubs and therefore one should inquire before engaging in the act.
The above mentioned are the expectations of BDSM in a New York club.